posted on 6/10/20
Sorry to hear of Shirley's passing. I will miss her coming in for her dental visits and talking to her. She was a sweet lady. I'll will be praying for you and your family.
Iris and Allan Edkins
posted on 6/9/20
Rest In Peace Shirley. We have always remembered how you welcomed us and Catherine in to your home and family. ~ Iris and Allan Edkins
Karen McCue Antos
posted on 6/7/20
The virtual service was a loving tribute to Aunt Shirley. Thank you for sharing it with us. The love you shared was evident.
Rest in Peace Aunt Shirley. You will be missed.
posted on 6/6/20
Rest in Peace.
We will always remember and be grateful for your kind welcome of Catherine and us to your home and family.
Allan and Iris
posted on 6/3/20
Having only known Shirley through Facebook posts by Cindy and perhaps a chance visit at an ultimate frisbee field, it’s hard to not be touched by the devotion Cindy has had to her. Her obituary reads beautifully and such a woman who did it all and well, it seems, shall clearly be long remembered. Sincere Condolences.
posted on 6/3/20
So sorry to hear of the passing of Shirley. I knew her through tennis while she lived in Massachusetts. She will be missed.
posted on 6/2/20
So sorry for your loss. She was a wonderful woman and I’ll miss her.
posted on 6/2/20
Condolences can be left here and we will get them to my father. Thank you
posted on 6/1/20
Charlie, Michael, Missy, Chris and Leigh,
I know this is a difficult time and that your loss is profound. The obituary is beautiful and describes Shirley so well. But I wanted to leave you with some additional personal remembrances of my favorite aunt (who was, in today's lingo, the "cool aunt" to me).
She and my mother were so connected by their incredibly strong family connections and experience, but separated by an age difference that seemed to put her somewhere between a beloved aunt and a favorite cousin to me. It was only later in my life that I realized the uncanny family resemblance between Shirley and Anne, and I can see my mom in the beautiful picture of Shirley from the obituary. And they both looked so much like our beloved grandmother. Mother Grand was sweet and a wonderful, welcoming matriarch, but she had a wicked sense of humor and was feisty and tough-minded, never suffering fools gladly. I loved all that about her. My mom was always "if you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything." Mother Gran didn't necessarily abide by that rule and she frequently surprised (and delighted) me with her trenchant observations and sharp sense of humor. I saw that in Shirley, even more than in my mother, and came to believe Shirley was the true heir of Mother Gran in many ways.
Shirley was exotic to me also. While we grew up close to hearth and home and found most of our travel and adventures in books, Shirley seemed to me to be living a larger life. From the stories of driving PaPa's jeep, owning an MG (I think), flying around the country as a flight attendant, living in exotic places like Massachusetts, Texas, and California--all of that seemed incredible to me, and I loved to listen to the stories Mom told me about what Shirley was doing and where she was going now. And I would get incredibly excited when Mom told me that Shirley and Charlie (and kids) were driving all day and all night from Massachusetts to come back to Brookside Camp for summer vacation or a Christmas visit. I know that probably sounds incredible to y'all, who lived all of those places and travels (and those epic road trips), and it would sound incredible to my kids, who think nothing of getting on an airplane to go somewhere (or did before coronavirus) and have been all over the US, Canada, Europe and Latin America, but that is how it seemed to me at the time. I thought of her as a grown-up, sophisticated, worldly person who somehow incredibly was related to me. I suppose I have grown out of that a little, but the impression it made on me never went away.
And I will tell you something you probably already know--she was competitive!!
After Charlie and Shirley retired to Brookside Camp, Ellie and I would play Shirley and Charlie in tennis when we came up to visit Mom and Dad (and let them take charge of our boys). Shirley hated to lose. She was always gracious and magnanimous if Ellie and I won, but you could see the steam rising if Charlie missed a put-away or a shot that she felt he should have had. She had high standards when she played. And although she always controlled her temper, I always wondered if Charlie were getting an earful after a match that didn't go their way.
And I know you already know this, but she was so proud of her children and grandchildren. That doesn't mean she didn't get exasperated with you--I already mentioned she did not suffer fools gladly. But when we would come to visit at Brookside Camp, we always got a rundown on what all children and grandchildren were doing. She was clearly proud of you all--although I would have to say that based on her comments, her grandchildren are all much more intelligent and talented than her children. :)
Anyway, I know you will be sharing reminiscences about Shirley, and I wish that I could be there to hear some of them. But I wanted to let you get a small glimpse of your mom through other eyes.
I loved her and will miss her.
posted on 6/1/20
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